perf: optimize spark_size in spark-expr

[andygrove]

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What changed

Optimizes spark_size in the native spark-expr crate.

Compute list row sizes from the offset buffer instead of allocating a sliced ArrayRef per row via list_array.value(i), removing one heap allocation per row.

Evidence

• Correctness: unit tests + seeded differential fuzz (bit-identical Arrow output vs main).
• Benchmark (criterion, Rust-only): see numbers below; gate required ≥ 5.0% mean improvement with non-overlapping confidence intervals and no regressions.

spark_size_ list of short arrays: 93.333% faster (base 151223ns -> cand 10082ns)
spark_unhex_ valid mixed hex: 19.964% faster (base 125189ns -> cand 100197ns)
spark_unhex_ mixed hex column: 13.986% faster (base 109637ns -> cand 94303ns)
spark_size_ list of long arrays: 94.086% faster (base 156323ns -> cand 9245ns)
spark_unhex_ all valid: 42.128% faster (base 201069ns -> cand 116362ns)
spark_unhex_ with nulls: 36.465% faster (base 179663ns -> cand 114150ns)
spark_unhex_ valid hex: 22.177% faster (base 152680ns -> cand 118821ns)