fix(objectql)!: a hook's own write's stale-roll-up refusal never answers for the outer write; the unlanded-write refusal re-leads, declares 500, and never claims a failed rollback

fix(objectql)!: a hook's own write's stale-roll-up refusal never answers for the outer write; the unlanded-write refusal re-leads, declares 500, and never claims a failed rollback #18980